June 28, 2012

Nine Funny Reasons Why The Supreme Court Justices Voted The Way They Did For Obamacare

In case you have been living under a rock or you are passed out on your bathroom floor because you can't afford to have an operation, it turns out that the Supreme Court has ruled to uphold the individual mandate and declare Obamacare legal.

Here are my reasons why the Supreme Court Justices voted the way they did:

John Roberts - As Chief Justice, he simply voted YES for one reason, and one reason only. He was born and raised in Buffalo, New York, and us Buffalonians know how to get shit done, intelligently.

Clarence Thomas - The African-American voted NO because, overall, black individuals in America probably have the best health coverage in the world! Right? Oh, wait...

Ruth Ginsburg - As the first female Jewish justice, she knows that getting your baby Jew circumcised is a tad bit costly. How did she expect the next generations of young Jews to afford this? Needless to say, she voted YES.

Antonin Scalia - He was born in New Jersey. He voted NO.

Sonia Sotomayor - As the first Hispanic justice, she said YES because Obama was pulling on her puppet strings. I mean, because she wanted to vote that way.

Samuel Alito - Also born in New Jersey. Also voted NO. Also a Republican. Not cute, to boot.

Elena Kagan - This lady voted YES because she is not straight. I mean, she does not get persuaded by people that don't think straight. Yeah, that's what I meant.

Anthony Kennedy - He voted NO because it rhymed with "Oh," which is what most people say when find out that he is not a "real Kennedy."

Stephen Breyer - This justice voted YES because throughout history, he was been one of the most outspoken voices advocating for abortion on the Supreme Court. Now, it seems like more abortions are possible to take place.

I'm sure this is why they voted the way they did. Now, I'm also sure that the next controversial topic to hit the Supreme Court will be gay marriage. So find out the Funny Reasons Why Gay People Should Not Marry.

June 27, 2012

Texts Of The Day: June 27, 2012

Since a majority of my friends are completely insane or drunk, I get a variety of unique text messages throughout the day. From time to time, depending on how funny or outrageous, I will start to share a couple gems for the world to see. You will soon understand that I am not the craziest of my friends - I'm just the only one with a website.

 "Check out my shadow puppet about to eat my fan"

"Would it be rude to get a tattoo of a line down my thigh with the caption: must be this long to ride?"

"I pity banged someone with a penis the size of a Polly Pocket dream house"

Have you checked out my Reflection On Drunk Texting?

June 26, 2012

News Of The Day: June 26, 2012

Copyright - It appears as if Anthony Davis, a University of Kentucky student who many believe will be picked for the upcoming NBA draft on Thursday, has officially filed patent requests with the U.S Patent and Trademark Office for the two most well-known catchphrases associated with him: "Fear The Brow" & "Raise The Brow." Aftershaves, shaving preparation and skin cleansers were included on the list. In other news, I'm confused and for some reason, feel the urge to throw up.

One Regular Sandwich, Hold The Bigotry & Hate
- Hilah 
Johnson, a beautiful chef and cooking sensation, came up with a way to enjoy the food of Chick-Fil-A, a homophobic company. Johnson offers cooking instructions and a substitute for those who crave one of the company's chicken sandwiches,  but don't want to patronize the restaurant. Why are gay men even eating at the restaurant in the first place? My only rationale is that they think the name is "Dick-Fil-A."

Two Funny Event Ideas For The First Ever Gay Pride Celebration At The Pentagon

The Defense Department hosts its first ever Pride event today. They welcome gay and lesbian service members; individuals who are now are able to openly serve after the DADT repeal last year.

This awesome news had me think -- what type of events would take place? As I have attended Gay Pride events in liberal cities such as Los Angeles and New York, I know that the military is a little less outlandish, so to speak, so here are some of my Pride event ideas that can take place at the Pentagon today.


Conversation
- In honor of the repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," there will be one event that will get everyone talking. Well, sort of. All day in the Pentagon, people should be banned from asking questions, or giving the answer to something that is implied as a question. Yes, it sounds a little boring and crazy, but LGBT service members did this for close to twenty years, so I'm pretty sure it's possible.

Drag
- And no, not the drag you are thinking of. Service members will dress up like the typical American citizens from the South and Midwest; however, many may opt out due to discomfort and being associated with these individuals. Bibles, overalls, and dirt will be the most popular props.

Oreo Supports Gay Pride Month

For many gay Americans who ate their feelings during their youth, they most likely hold a soft spot for Oreo. In conjunction with Gay Pride Month, and the various major LGBT pride events that occurred over this past weekend, Oreo posted a picture on Facebook of the iconic cookie. 


However, this time, its cream center was replaced with a symbolic rainbow. The caption reads: “proudly support love!" 

Bigots - rev your engines! Like anything progressive, the fall out has already begun, as individuals are upset because - shockingly - some Americans want to live in a world where acceptance is universal. Yet again - this is coming from a country where many believe that homosexuality is a lifestyle choice and obesity is genetic. Let's think about that belief for a few minutes. And I digress.

Check out some reactions from my friends over at Newsy.

What's next? People getting upset over the original Oreo because it looks like an interracial threesome?

June 25, 2012

New York City Gay Pride 2012: Another Day In The Life

I decided to take a little hiatus from dating a month ago, so when I gave my number out a few times during gay pride week in New York City, I realized, once again, why I decided to become a dating hermit.

I had met a nice gentleman a few hours earlier at Boxers, a gay sports bar in Manhattan, so when he asked for my number, I gave it to him.

Later that night, he stated a casual conversation that lead him to him inviting me to The Hampton Inn. When I asked to do what, he replied to "fuck."

I suppose I really shouldn't be too offended, as it was gay pride and all, but if you are trying to coax me into sexual acts or a one night stand, please make sure it's a nice hotel that you didn't pay $72 for on Expedia. I've watched Pretty Woman a few times and I know how a lady should be treated. I ended up running into him later on at another bar - because New York City is the smallest large city in the world, it appears - and he made small talk as my friend was blacking out and dancing on stage with his phone battery at 2%. Ah, to be young.


"You know, we could hang out tonight still. Well, if you wanted to. I'm fun, and I get to travel a lot for work" he said.

"Really? Do you think you travel more than Carmen Sandiego? If so, I'm impressed. But, sure, let's get out of here," I replied, "I hope my three hernias aren't going to be turn off. I wouldn't be surprised if some guys thought it was a turn on."

"Uh, what do you mean?"

"I mean that I have three hernias, and I have my surgery on Friday. At any given time, it looks like I have three to four testicles, so we'll just have to see what happens."

"Oh. I, uh, am going to check in with my friends" he answered.

As he walked away with a horrified look on his face, I finished by drink quickly and made my way to the stage. By now, it seemed as if every gay man and his mother were rocking out to Rihanna or Britney or someone on stage, and I couldn't find my friend. It took me another hour, but when we finally crossed paths, I told him that it was time to go.

"Whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy? Let's dance, just one more song" he said.

"Alright," I said, "just one more song."

June 24, 2012

Big, Big City

Your right arm was tossed across your forehead,
As your left arm was driving the car,
You weren't tired,
Or drunk,
Or bored,
But I think you were over it,
A little bit over it.

You moved from Los Angeles,
And you were from a big city before,
Now you were in New York,
New York City,
And it was old,
Too old for you,
Even thought you were young.

Wow,
Another beautiful boy,
Or man,
Another beautiful woman,
And you realized that a dime a dozen was,
Among other things,
An understatement.

On,
And on,
And on you go,
So overly done,
Just over it,
And then out from the blue,
He turned the corner,
And you smiled.

June 21, 2012

Broadway Bares XXII Raises Over 1.25 Million Dollars For AIDS Research

Broadway Bares XXII: Happy Endings made history yet again this past Sunday by raising a record-breaking $1,254,176. The show was a fairytale evening of modern-day burlesque which featured over two hundred individuals donating their time and energy to an amazing cause. The event, which had two shows, was sold out and was held at the Roseland Ballroom in New York City.

The money raised goes to Broadway Cares / Equity Fights AIDS, the organization behind the event. They are one of the nation’s leading industry-based, nonprofit AIDS fundraising and grant-making organizations. By drawing upon the talents, resources and generosity of the American theatre community, since 1988, the organization has raised over $195 million for essential services for people with AIDS and other critical illnesses across the United States.

Through my position at SPI Marketing, I had the amazing opportunity to work with the organization. The show was awesome and risque, and after my hiatus of dating, I ended up getting a date out of the deal. Who says hard work doesn't pay off, eh?

Make sure to become of fan of Broadway Cares / Equity Fights AIDS on Facebook and follow them on Twitter.

Idiots Of The Week: GOProud

GOProud, a gay Republicans group that supports conservative principles, announced that they were “enthusiastically” endorsing the presumptive GOP presidential nominee Mitt Romney earlier this week. I know it's gay pride month, but how drunk are these dudes?

In a recent interview with ABC news, Jimmy LaSalvia, GOProud’s executive director, said, “I happen to believe that just because you were born gay doesn’t mean you were born liberal. And while I don’t agree with Gov. Romney on everything, in general we share a view that a limited government is better than a big bloated federal government.”

Alright, alright. Enough quotes from GOProud. How about some quotes from Mitt Romney regarding the LGBT community?

“I stood up to fight same sex marriage. I was one of the nation’s leading advocates of traditional marriage."

“I opposed then, and I do now, gay marriage and civil union.”

“I am proud of the fact that I and my team did everything within our power and within the law to stand up for traditional marriage.”

“From day one, I’ve opposed the move for same-sex marriage and its equivalent, civil unions.”

“When I am President, I will preserve the defense of marriage act and I will fight for a federal amendment defining marriage as a relationship between one man and one woman.”


GOProud pledged to “commit significant resources” to help Romney beat Obama.

You don't need to be liberal to be gay, or vice versa, but no matter what your sexuality happens to be, try not to be an idiot.

A Talk With Artist Gayle Kabaker

Over the years, The New Yorker, a prominent staple in the world of publication, has awed readers with not only insightful commentary and articles, but with the amazing art that is showcased on the cover. For the June 25, 2012 cover, the beautiful painting "June Brides" graced the magazine. I spoke with the artist, Gayle Kabaker, on what this means for the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community.

Jeffrey Hartinger: Your cover art for The New Yorker is breathtaking. As an established artist, have you ever depicted the LGBT community in your work before?


Gayle Kabaker: Thank you! Not really; but I used to do the Women’s Times covers for two years. Once, I did a February cover image of a bunch of women holding hearts. It could have been taken either way. I do a lot of women’s health and fashion.

JH: I believe that the arts, media, and the entertainment industry has a strong role in shaping the public opinion on a variety of social movements. What do you think people will take from your creation?

GK: Well, the reason I named it “June Brides” was so it would be open to interpretation. Maybe it's two gay women or maybe it's just two brides about to be married. Maybe it's two sisters having a double wedding, but the single bouquet kind of defines it more as a gay couple. I really was just trying to make a beautiful painting of two brides.

JH: The goal of Generation: (WH)Y? is to showcase successful individuals to serve as a motivation for those in Generation Y. Is there one artist or other individual that primarily influenced you when you were in your 20's?


GK: The fashion illustrator Antonio Lopez was my hero when I was in art school, in addition to Mats Gustavson. Gladys Perint Palmer was my teacher at the Academy of Art in San Francisco. She came to teach towards the end of my four years there, so I would have been around 21 or 22, and her crazy, wonderful, and loose style totally inspired a small group of us students; she was a huge influence on me. I teach fashion drawing now for the online degree program at the school and she developed the class. It’s been wonderfully inspiring to me this past year.
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Make sure to check out Gayle Kabaker on her website and become a fan of her work on Facebook. To see what a terrible artist I am, check out My Painting Of Kurt Cobain after I had a few glasses of wine.

June 18, 2012

Interview With The President Of You And Who

I was browsing online when I stumbled upon the website of You And Who, a relatively new clothing company that is based in my hometown of Buffalo, New York. Not only are the shirt designs beautiful and unique, but after the company sells a shirt, they give one to someone in need. You can navigate the website and learn about all of the cities that the company is connected; such as how many individuals are homeless, the unemployment rate, and how many residents are below the poverty line.

I had the amazing opportunity to speak with Dan Gigante, the owner and president of You and Who.  We spoke about the mission of his company, how Millennials can use his work ethic as a model for their own dreams, and of course, Buffalo.

Jeffrey Hartinger: I'm a native of Buffalo and can say first hand that the city is major creative and cultural enclave.  How has Western New York and Buffaloians inspired you and the direction of your company?


Dan Gigante: Many only know Buffalo as a city that's had its knocks and one that gets more than its fair share of snow every year. I'd dispute the rep we get for our snow, but, that aside, what should be taken from these stereotypes is one important truth: Buffalo is tough, but more importantly, it has heart...and a lot of heart at that. I left my own web development company that I ran for 10 years to start something meaningful, and could have a positive impact on those in need. It's because I'm a product of Buffalo, the City of Good Neighbors, that perhaps I felt like this was something within my reach. And it was important to me. 


JH: What has been your most popular shirt?


DG: Interestingly enough, it's one of our Buffalo shirts - Buffalo Tree by Terri Swiatek. One of the things that perhaps I've known about Buffalo my whole life, but only recently through You and Who has it been more apparent, is that the people of Buffalo will buy anything--and I do mean anything--that has a Buffalo or says "Buffalo" on it. Terri's design does this in a really fantastic, artistic way. You can see the outline of the Buffalo as part of the tree, and that appeals to people. But it's a very successful shirt because Buffalonians truly love to show their city pride. And in many ways, that's what You and Who is all about. Terri's design embodies that.


JH: The goal of
Generation: (WH)Y? is to entertain, as well as to educate people on the gay rights movement and the LGBT community as a whole.  Has You and Who been active in the advocating for the rights of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender customers?

DG: Personally, I am a huge gay rights advocate and feel very strongly about promoting equality for everyone. There are shelters that we work with that help homeless LGBT teens that feel there's no where for them to go. Just last week, we tweeted about how the Volunteers of America Utah Youth Homeless Drop-In Center in downtown Salt Lake City is helping to house and support homeless LGBT that were kicked out of their homes for coming out. Homelessness happens for many reasons: economic hardship, addiction, or perhaps just poor decisions. It's a heartbreaking situation to see anyone suffer through, but to see it happen to kids who are just being honest about who they are is heartbreaking beyond measure. I want You and Who to be part of what helps these teens, even if in just some small, supportive way. There's always more that can be done, and I am always looking for ways to help as many different people as possible.


JH: It seems as if the Millennial generation is all about helping people and trying to change the world.  What is your advice for those in Generation Y who want to channel that energy and achieve the success you have?


DG: I've been giving a few talks recently that about how easy it is these days for people to start their own business. Between the number of free and easy-to-access digital marketing tools, including social media, and even going the route of crowd-sourcing, getting started has never been more possible. And social media has made the world that much smaller and more interconnected. I do agree that Gen Y and younger are more motivated to be engaged in and champion social causes. When you look around, we know there's a lot of work in front of us that can be done to change broken systems that don't offer aid to those who need it. What I say to those who want to help someone: do it without reservation. Identify what you feel passionate about, identify what your talents and strengths are, and find a way to lend those talents to the cause you feel most passionate about. There is always a way to get involved - it's just a matter of either finding that pathway or carving one out for yourself.


JH: Given your experiences and research, what American city do you believe is in the most dire need of assistance right now?


DG: New Orleans - hands down. Last fall, I visited 30 U.S. cities in 90 days, and was struck most by the difficulties that New Orleans is facing, even 7 years after Hurricane Katrina. The type of devastation that city has experienced is something that will leave a scar on them forever. But, just like Buffalo, that is one tough community. Faced with adversity, they are trying to find their way again. But make no mistake, even though the news media is not drawing our attention to that city, they still need help. I'm starting to wonder if toughness in a city is directly correlated to the amount of pride within that city. Like Buffalo, New Orleans has suffered and has fallen hard on tough times. And just like Buffalo, it's the people that give that city the immense heart it has. It's the people that keep that city going, but even though they're fighting for their city and for themselves daily, we cannot forget them.
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Make sure to visit You and Who to order some awesome clothes; all while making a difference.  Become a fan on Facebook, follow them on Twitter, and find out why Buffalo, New York is so cool.

The Gumbo Kids Throw A Pool Party For Gay Pride

It's gay pride in New York City this weekend, and you know what that means, right? Well, other then me wondering why every gay man in the city has a six pack and I don't, it's party time, baby.

The Gumbo Gang, a staple in NYC gay nightlife, is having their first ever event for pride and they are going to blow the competition out of the water ... no pun intended. The event takes place on Sunday, June 24th. The pool party, which is the roof of the Thompson LES hotel, kicks off at 2PM and goes til 10PM. Dirty Sugar Photography will be there and taking fabulous pictures, as usual.

Check out the Gumbo Facebook page for more information, and make sure to stop out, even if just for a drink or two. Thinking about getting lucky this weekend? Make sure to check out Reasons You Should Have Sex On The First Date.

June 17, 2012

Rodney King Dies. How Has America Changed?

There are many social movements that may come and go in American history, but sadly, I believe the "issues" and common misconceptions regarding the African-American community is something that is still very evident in the United States.  On March 3, 1991, Rodney King was thrust into the spotlight as a victim of police brutality.  George Holliday, a bystander, videotaped a terrible account of police brutality by the Los Angeles Police Department.

This incident lead to the 1992 Los Angeles riots, when on April 29, 1992, a jury acquitted four LAPD officers in their connection to the beating.  The riots, which lasted close to a week, left 53 people dead, thousands injured, and over a billion dollars in damage.

When I moved to Los Angeles last summer, I settled in the Koreatown neighborhood near downtown.  As an avid fan of history, it didn't occur to me for a few days that I was smack dab in the middle of one of the worst riots in modern American history.

When I reflect on my struggles as a gay male, I guess, subconsciously, I always connected with the African-American community due to our minority status.  Growing up in the largest school district in Western New York, I can recall only a handful of black students, and didn't really have any association with the community until I moved into the city of Buffalo for four years as a college student.

Rodney King and the thousands of others who have experienced the same type of racial prejudice will shed light on the unspoken political and social undertones that are still evident in our country.  I can recall dozens of bar conversations or walks through my college quad where people would state that they were more comfortable with same-sex relationships than those that were interracial.

Rest in Peace, Rodeney, and all those lives that were lost in 1992 during the riots.  We have a long way to go, but I see better things on the horizon.

June 14, 2012

Brooklyn Industries Pride Event: June 21, 2012


Brooklyn Industries
is a cutting edge design company that sells its innovative clothes exclusively through their 14 stores and website.  With a few locations in New York City, I stumbled across their store in Manhattan a few months ago and fell in love with their awesome and unique designs.  They have stores in additional cities, such as Chicago and Portland.

As gay pride week starts next week in New York City, it's refreshing to see this young and hip company throwing an event.

I'll be attending.  I saw the words "Chelsea," rainbow print, and alcohol logos, so you better believe it.  You can check out their Facebook page & Twitter account for more information.  Also, please note the following:

1)  I've taken the past month off from dating

2)  This will be my first gay pride in New York City
3)  I enjoy drinking a tad bit

Which means, not only will one lucky guy win the pride costume contest, but their odds of getting lucky with me are pretty much 99.99%.  See you there!

Couple Breaks Up After 115 Years

No, I ain't talking about Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell.  I'm talking about two turtles.  Bibi and Poldi, two giant tortoises at an Austrian Zoo, have decided to go their separate ways.

According to Austrian Times, zoo management called in animal experts in an attempt to give the pair counseling.  The couple were fed good mood food and were coaxed into playing games together.  Sadly, it seems as if the couple has already made up their minds.

What started the fight?  Bibi was pissed and she bite Poldi.  Perhaps he looked under the shell of another woman?  Giant Turtles have no teeth, but they have horn rimmed mouths and a powerful jaw, which could cause damage.  Domestic violence to the extreme if you ask me.

No matter what happens to the pair, I wish them luck.  I was once in a relationship for a little under 115 days and I wanted to bite the person, too.

This isn't the only relationship related drama involving animals.  Find out the Reasons Why Gay Penguins Pedro And Buddy Should Not Be Separated.

June 13, 2012

Belief In God Plummets For Generation Y

In a new survey by the Pew Research Center, it concludes that the belief in the existence of God has dropped 15 points in the last five years.  This is in reference to those in Generation Y, also known as Millennials; individuals in America that are 30-years-old and under.

The Pew Research Center has been studying the trend for over 25 years and found that just under 70 percent of Gen Yers in 2012 agree with the statement “I never doubt the existence of God.”
 

3 Reasons To Have A Same Sex Fling

A few years ago, if a straight guy told me that he was interested in having sexual relations with another guy and still considered himself heterosexual, I would think he was deeper in the closet than Marcus Bachmann. However, as time progresses and Millennials become more open minded and progressive, it seems as sexuality for those of us in Generation Y is more blurred than ever.  This past weekend, I may or may not of had a four way kiss in the hot tub at The Standard. Yeah, I said four. Anyways, it was two straight girls, one gay guy, and one straight guy. Just because I kissed a girl, does that make me straight? Just because he kissed me, does that make him gay? Are the girls bisexual? I don't think so, but either way, here are three reasons why you - whether gay or straight - should have a same sex fling.

Reason One - Experimentation. I already touched upon it, but to further my belief, let me get to the point; having sexual relations with someone of the same sex does not make you gay or lesbian. For the most part, those of us in Generation Y don't really have an issue with being associated with the LGBT community, but this is where it gets tricky. At 23-years-old, I'm looking to seriously date and eventually settle down a few years down the line. To be honest, it would throw off my game if people thought I was straight. I'd be pissed; I already have a hard enough time getting a date as it stands now.

It's the same thing for straight guys and girls. I'd say get it out of the way now. Relationship wise, nothing is worse than having an inkling or curiosity for the same sex, and then getting in a heterosexual relationship. For the most part, my straight friends who have had same sex flings consider them just that; flings. Out of there system, out of their mind. I give them respect for experimenting and figuring out what they want. Without experimentation, one may long for it when in a committed relationship, which could lead to turmoil. And oftentimes, a curiosity could lead to a unique self discovery that, alas, you are gay. Who cares. Get over it, sister.

Reason Two - Friends With Benefits. I've written about Friends With Benefits in the past and through extensive "research," I have concluded this is one of the most common forms of modern relationships for our generation.  One perk of a same sex fling is that being Friends With Benefits is not that complicated.  Straight girls - what is better than going to the beach, shopping, and then having a nice little quickie with your female friend before a night on the town.  Straight guys - go grab some beers, catch the game, and then have a little quickie before the next game is on.  The only gay thing about that is letting the other guy suck your dick, but I digress. Above all, be open and honest with what you want, as well as what you are comfortable with.

Reason Three - YOLO.  And no bitch, I ain't talking about "You Only Live Once," cause that phrase if fucking annoying.  OK, well, yes, I do mean YOLO. Unlike Jesus, who lived twice (supposedly), us regular humans only have one time to make it count.  And sure, I'm just not talking about same sex flings, but anything. Do what you want to do and like "YOLO," be a little cliche at times, if that's what floats your boat.

Now, find out Why Gay People Should Have Sex Like Straight People.

June 11, 2012

Carrie Underwood Announces Support For Gay Marriage

Carrie Underwood, one of the most popular country music stars, has come out in support of gay marriage.  In a recent interview with The Independent, she told the paper that she attends a gay friendly church and supports LGBT marriage equality.

"As a married person myself, I don't know what it's like to be told I can't marry somebody I love, and want to marry.  I can't imagine how that must feel. I definitely think we should all have the right to love, and love publicly, the people that we want to love."

While religion - more specifically, Christianity - is used as an reason to deny the rights of the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community, the religion of Underwood seems to be why she supports it.

"Our church is gay friendly," she says. "Above all, God wanted us to love others. It's not about setting rules, or [saying] 'everyone has to be like me.' No. We're all different. That's what makes us special. We have to love each other and get on with each other. It's not up to me to judge anybody."

Glad to have the support of Carrie.  A young, beautiful entertainer that will ultimately help alter the right wing views of some of her more conservative fans.  As for myself, I was a fan of hers every since she released that song about fucking up the car of her cheating ex-boyfriend.  You go, girl.  Make sure to listen to Before He Cheats.

Kirk Cameron Visits Buffalo To Promote Marriage

Mike Seaver, I mean, Kirk Cameron, paid a visit to my homework of Buffalo, New York in order to promote marriage.  Cameron visited Eastern Hills Wesleyan Church for the Feed Your Faith's national "Love Worth Fighting For" speaker series.  The actor came under fire earlier this year for saying that marriage "was defined in the garden between Adam and Eve - one man, one woman for life."

He went on to say that homosexuality is "unnatural" and ''detrimental and ultimately destructive to so many of the foundations of civilization."

The "Love Worth Fighting For" series was designed to strengthen and encourage marriages; well, seemingly for those who are heterosexual.  "Not only is 'Love Worth Fighting For' intended for those with struggling marriages, but it is a great event for those that are engaged or even people looking to be married one day and they simply want to lay a foundation for the future," said Cameron.

I wish I would have known he was visiting my awesome hometown beforehand; I would of had him read Reasons To Have Sex With Someone From Buffalo.

June 8, 2012

Obama & Biden Turn People Gay

Caiden Cowger, a 14-year-old radio host, claims that stance of Obama is turning the youth of America homosexual.  Crazy, right?  If anyone turned me gay during puberty, I would place to blame Timothy Olyphant the first time I saw him shirtless on screen.

"President Obama, Vice President Biden, is making kids gay," the pint sized, Ann Coutler, Jr. said. "They are encouraging kids to think, well, you know what, they're talking about being a homosexual, and they're saying there's nothing wrong with being gay, so you know what, I think I might try that out for a little bit. That's what's going on."  He went on to say that he is "sick" because he knows there are at least 30 kids in his county that are LGBT.

I'm pretty sure straight dudes aren't really thinking, "Oh, OK.  President Obama supports gay marriage now?  Maybe I'll go suck another guys dick, ya know, just to try that."  Yeah ... not so much.

Dana Loesch, a CNN contributor and conservative talk show host, was quick to defend Cowger.  She wrote, "Another conservative teen under attack for being ... a conservative teen.  Remember when adults praised civic participation?"

I have friends who are conservative.  I have good friends who are Republican.  The only thing I don't seem to have are friends who are idiots.

June 7, 2012

LinkedIn & eHarmony Passwords Stolen

Some dude is having a terrible day.  Well, make that a couple million dude and dudettes.

LinkedIn, a professional networking site, and the online dating service eHarmony said Wednesday that some of their users’ passwords were stolen.  Although a set number was not given, it is believed that millions appear to have been leaked onto the Internet.

Somewhere in America ...

Thursday at 11:42AM :  "Oh shit, I can't log into LinkedIn to lie about my qualifications.  Fuck this recession.  Maybe I can score a date tonight."

Thursday at 11:44AM : "Oh shit, I can't log into eHarmony to lie about my weight and apperance.  Fuck superficial people.  Maybe I can buy stock at Facebook."

Thursday at 11:45AM : "Wait.  That's the stupidest fucking idea I've had all day."

If you, or someone you love has had their password stolen, I send my condolences.

June 6, 2012

A Letter To My Future Child

I was not impressed
A few days ago, I came across the website A Note To My Kid, which gives the LGBTQ community, their parents, families and friends the opportunity to share their unconditional love with one another. You are able to write a note, share a video, and submit a picture, among other things.  The mission of the organization is to give a voice to individuals across the globe as they share their personal reflections.  Established in 2011, they have already been recognized by the San Diego Ambassadors of The Trevor Project for working to save young lives in the LGBTQ community.

Reading through some of the submissions, I wondered to myself what I would say to my future child.
  Well, I guess it would go something like this:

June 6, 2012

To Whom It May Concern,


Whoa. 
A little official, right?  I’m not quite sure who you will be yet, so I suppose I should be a tad bit formal.  I’m Jeffrey, one of your fathers, and I am comfortable in saying that.  Finally comfortable saying that.  At 23-years-old, I know wholeheartedly that having two parents of the same gender will not be a detriment to you in any way. 

That being said, there still may be some setbacks for you.
  Sorry, but you’ll have to work a little harder on Father’s Day and make two cards.  For your extra effort, I promise to give you the day off from school every Mother’s day so we can spend it together; hopefully with one of your grandmothers.  Actually, you can make me a card on Mother’s Day, too; I'm not too picky, but I hope it is one filled with some cash and little poems about how I am such a cool parent.  I am still cool, right?  Was I ever cool?

I don’t know what country you’ll be from, or what nationality you will be, or the circumstances of your adoption, but like any “expecting” parent, I am sure I will constantly wonder if you will be a boy or a girl.
  The first few years of your life, you will be dressed in little flannel shirts with ripped jeans and we will listen to 90’s music before you go to bed.  You can complain, but it won’t do you that much good.  I don't see us living in Buffalo, but I'll make you a deal; if you go to my Alma mater, Canisius College, your father and I will help you pay for it.

To be honest with you, it used to upset me knowing that I wouldn't be able to look at you and see myself; my thick hair, my light brown eyes, my big nose, or any other genetic possibly that I would pass onto you, much like any heterosexual parents would be able.  That's fine, through.  I don't know you yet, nor who your father will be, but I do know we will be nothing alike.  I know that's for sure.  You'll be my kid, and I'll be your dad.  That's all that will matter.

Who are you going to take after?  I was too sneaky and too problematic as a child, and it would be crazy to think that karma would forget about me that easily.  I was manipulator, but sweet.  I realized that if I could make people laugh, I could pretty much get away with anything; I hope you realize that early in life, too.

I want you to learn the hard way about things.  Move away.  Go away to college.  Have your car break down on a road trip.  Say "yes" when everyone else is saying "no," and vice versa, if that's really the way you feel.

Do weird things not only in your youth, but your whole life.  Make goals and surpass them.  Be a little cliche at times.  Do something strange, like write a letter to your unborn kids.

Above all - do something you love everyday and also something you don't.  Believe me, it helps put things into perspective.  Catch you on the flip side.

For a humorous post, check out Lies I Will Tell My Children.

Ray Bradbury, Sci-Fi Writer, Dies At Age 91

When I trace back my life to what inspired me to be a writer, I can say it all began with Ray Bradbury.  At the start of 9th grade, I picked up a copy of Fahrenheit 451, a 1953 novel that presents an American dystopia where books are outlawed and humans are consumed by technology.  Over the next few years, I immersed myself into not only his books, but his hundreds of short stories.

As an avid fan of futuristic writing and science fiction, I found my go to author for this genre.  One of my favorite Ray Bradbury quotes is, "I don't try to describe the future. I try to prevent it."  Ironically enough, Bradbury predicted many things in his writing, such as live broadcasts of fugitive car chases and various forms of advanced technology.

In a written statement today, his publisher, HarperCollins, announced that Bradbury "died peacefully, last night, in Los Angeles, after a lengthy illness."

Rest In Peace Ray Bradbury, August 22, 1920 to June 5, 2012.  Make sure to check out a list of all his published work and pick some up for your trip to the beach this summer.

June 5, 2012

The Grindr Interview: A Chat With Serge Gojkovich

Grindr, which first launched in 2009, has exploded into the largest and most popular all-male location-based social network out there.  A trailblazer for the LGBT community, there are currently over three million guys around the world that use the app; which helps to guarantee that you’ll always find a new date, buddy, or friend on Grindr. 

I had the great opportunity to speak with Serge Gojkovich, the Vice President of Marketing and Sales at Grindr.

We spoke about the concept behind the brand, the underlying tones of racism and bigotry, and the new advancements that Grindr has in store on a global level.

Jeffrey Hartinger:  After I explain the concept of Grindr to my straight friends, one of their first questions is typically, "what is that little mask?"  Can you give some background on the logo of the company?


Serge Gojkovich:  When Grindr founders Joel and Scott were brainstorming logos, they looked at primitive tribal arts in Africa and Polynesia, specifically these primal masks. The masks struck Joel and Scott as representative of one of mankind's basic needs: socialization. That's the basis -- the inspiration -- and why we chose the mask as our logo. As gay men, we're a big community, a big tribe. So the mask is also a symbolic logo in that sense.

JH:  Many gay men are using the application beyond hooking up, such as making friends and seeking out potential relationships.  Have you seen a shift towards this trend over the past few years?


SG:  Guys use Grindr for many reasons, and we’ve really found that many of our users are using the app to find new friends, partners and husbands. In one of our recent surveys, we found that 70% of our users use Grindr to make friends, and 61% have made anywhere from one to five friends since they’ve begun using Grindr. Even better, this isn’t just happening here in the U.S. -- it’s actually a global phenomenon. We love hearing stories about these wonderful new found connections, and we're always getting new stories from users on a daily basis.  You can read about these at Grindr Stories.

JH:  When I turn on Grindr, it's typical for a majority of the images to be of one’s body.  Do you think this is an indication of the obsession that gay males seem to have with their bodies?


SG:  Well, everyone wants to present their best image. For some people, it's more about the physical -- the body. When we get the chance, we do encourage our users to use a face picture in their profile. It helps them get more responses. A number of users who've worked hard on their bodies would rather show off a shirtless picture of themselves. That’s fine with us just as long as it doesn’t violate our profile guidelines, which include a no-nudity policy.

JH:  Technology has been bringing people together for years, but Grindr is obviously the trailblazer for the LGBT community.  To your knowledge, have any marriages or engagements stemmed from the application?


SG:  Thanks for recognizing us as a trailblazer in the LGBT community. We really have to thank our users for spreading the word about the app. Technology has really helped bring people together like never before, and with Grindr, that technology has been very successful at bringing gay men together. And yes, plenty of people who originally met on Grindr have gotten engaged or married. It’s especially rewarding for us to hear the many great stories about how our users have found new friends, boyfriends and husbands through our app.

JH:  On Grindr - and quite honestly, all dating  & hook up sites - there seems to be underlying egoism and racism, such as, people requesting not to be contacted if one is "Asian, black, or fem." Why do you think people feel the need to put this in their profiles?


SG:  We always encourage our users to list what they do like and what they are looking for rather than what they don’t like and aren't looking for. We respect that everyone has his own preference, and Grindr users can list their dating preferences on their profile -- including race -- but they must abide by Grindr’s profile guidelines and not violate our terms of service. Our team actively monitors profiles for photos and language that can be perceived to incite racism, bigotry, hatred or physical harm of any kind.

JH:  With 10,000 new users a day, Grindr is obviously not slowing down.  What do you have planned next?


SG:  At the moment, we have 3.5 million users on Grindr, but we’ve realized that there are still tremendous growth opportunities and a huge gay market to cater to. We're committed to continuing to enhance our app with new features and on growing our amazing global user base. Most importantly, we're always looking for feedback from our users about what they do and don't like about the app because our primary goal is to make Grindr even better. We're very focused on continuing to innovate and on expanding our Grindr community.

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Make sure to check out Grindr out on social media - become a fan on Facebook and follow the app on Twitter.  For some comedy, make sure to check out Dudes You Meet On Grindr & The Night I Was Kicked Out Of A Threesome.

You can become a fan of my website on Facebook and also follow me on Twitter, too. I say funny shit. Sometimes.

More information on Serge
Gojkovich
:
Serge spearheads global marketing for both Grindr and Blendr and has a wealth of insights to share in both lessons learned and case studies for marketing to the LGBT community. Under Serge’s marketing leadership, Grindr today is the world’s largest gay social network with more than 3.5 million users across 192 countries.

Chevy Releases LGBT Ad For Gay Pride Month

Chevrolet, an American brand of vehicle produced by General Motors, has recently released this ad to pay homage to their gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender customers.

The text states, "Volt runs on an electric battery and a gas generator.  So, whatever revs your engine, we support you 100%.  Happy Motor City Pride from the entire Chevrolet family."

Of course, it plays off the whole coming out talk that children have with their parents.  Witty, funny, and above all, subtle. 

Next time I go for a ride, it will for sure be with a Chevy guy.

June 4, 2012

I May Lose A Testicle


“Alright, well, this is not good.  Not sure if this is a hernia.  Or if the veins to your testicle are tangled” said the nurse.  “If it is the latter, you could possibly lose your left testicle if this is not taken of immediately.  Hopefully the doctor can tell for sure.”

Well, that didn’t sound too fun.

My first thought that popped into my head after hearing this was montage of Lance Armstrong and myself as we did various things; running through a field of flowers while holding hands and listening to Sheryl Crow on a rainy day with the shades pulled down were the highlights worth mentioning.  If worst came to worst, he would be my one nut mentor.

Two guys, two nuts, and the shared love of beautiful women.  I snapped back to reality once I remembered I was gay.

“Yeah, I would prefer if I kept both of my nuts.  I mean, my testicles.  They are important to me,” I said to the nice nurse.

A few hours earlier, I was tossing and turning in bed on a Saturday night with extreme pain in my lower groin.  For the past few weeks, I’ve had terrible pain in that same general area, and as it kept reoccurring more often, I assumed it was more than cramps.  As I tried to rub the pain away, my hand grazed my ball sack.

“One. Two. Three. Pretty sure that’s not right,” I thought to myself out loud.  “This is for sure not right.”

After speaking with the nurse, I got ready for the doctor to come in the room.  I was instructed to put on a light blue dress with no underwear.  I was going to object and state that I wasn’t a sorority sister on a warm August day, but decided against it.  This doctor was going to see my little friends and the new found addition; like any new fling or one night stand, I pondered if he would be for or against the pubic hair I was sporting.

“I’m glad you decided to come in today,” said the doctor after fifteen minutes of examination and questions. “I’m referring you to an urologist.  This needs to be checked out as soon as possible.”

“I’m glad I came in today, too.  The two and a half hours in the waiting room with outdated magazines left less time for reading and more time for me to worry about the huge lump in my ball sack.”

The doctor was very helpful, wrote me a prescription for the pain, and gave me a few referrals for doctors in New York City.  Like the nurse, he had a few observations at what the lump could be, but said that only the urologist could tell for sure.  My appointment is for this Wednesday.

On the down side, whatever it is, it will most likely require surgery.  However, one perk is that I have wanted to lose some weight for the summer season, and if one of my testicles is removed, it will help me drop at least half a pound.  Life is too short to see the glass as half full.

Or, more fittingly, the sack as half full.

After my appointment, I called one of my best friends in California and filled her in on my little dilemma.  I made her promise that if it did have to be removed, we would cremate it and toss the ashes off the Santa Monica Pier, one of my favorite Southern California landmarks.

“Yeah, for sure.  I’m not sure how much ash it will produce, but I’m down for that.”  Her response, of course, just reassured me why she is one of my best friends.

Over the past few days, I wondered if my response was healthy.  Sure, most people like a dose of humor when dealing with sad or complicated news, but what the fuck am I going to do?  Sit in my bedroom and mope around because of a medical issue?

Above all, I consider myself a writer.  A writer that has insight and deep reflections on my personal life and society in general, but also a writer that still does keep some personal information to himself.  I’m private when it comes to my relationships and how many details I decide to include on my website or in magazine articles.  I debated whether or not to make this medical issue a topic on my blog, and ultimately, I decided to discuss it because quite honestly, medical issues are sadly what are going to connect those of us in Generation Y on a larger scale.

Do you know that 50% of the Milennials are going to die of cancer?  That rate is even higher for our younger brothers and sisters.  It’s scary to think about the world are children are going to face.  For men of our generation, the risk of testicular cancer is 4%.

Is it cancer?  A hernia?  Tangled veins?  I’m not sure, but I should know soon.  I suppose, more importantly, that this experience reinforces my belief that there are many things in life that we as humans don’t have control over; however that is not what makes a life worth living.  Life, in my opinion, is measured by the actions you take when you do have control.

June 1, 2012

Help The .Gay Domain Change The World For Gay Rights

A few months ago, I was hired by the marketing firm SPI Marketing in New York City.  One of the many perks of the job is that we advertise specifically to the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community.  A personal life goal of mine involves working to advance the rights of LGBT individuals; not only within the United States of America, but globally. 

While LGBT marketing does is not activism in a general sense, I believe that by incorporating gay friendly advertising into mainstream media - much like gay and lesbian characters are now a staple of many popular American television series and movies - we are helping individuals understand that this minority group is just as normal, and complicated, as those who identify as heterosexual.

Through my position at SPI, I have also worked on some .gay projects for my boss, Scott Seitz; the CEO and 90% owner of dotgay LLC and the founder of SPI Marketing, a leading LGBT agency with over 16 years of service on behalf of corporate and nonprofit clients.  If approved, .gay would exist as a so-called “Top-Level Domain” (TLD), the most well-known example of which is .com, and individuals, businesses and organizations would be able to register domain names ending in .gay. In addition to .gay, the governing body of Internet domain space, ICANN, is considering TLD proposals for .eco, .berlin, .sport, .shop and more.

Sure, many will say, "why do we need a .gay domain?"  Well, one reason is to help bring global equality to the LGBT community, among other things.

Just this week, the leader of the New Hope Baptist Church in Kansas, pastor Curtis Knapp, told parishioners that the government should round up LGBT people and kill them.  He said, "and should be put to death, that's what happened in Israel, that's why homosexuality wouldn't have grown in Israel. It tends to limit conversions, it tends to limit people coming out of the closet. 'Oh, so you're saying we should go out and start killing them?' No, I'm saying the government should. They won't, but they should."

Yes, outlandish comments, but many people think that would never happen.  Sadly, it happens all throughout the world.  Just as many in America do not know that LGBT Americans can be fired or kicked out of housing for being gay, there are many places in the world where being LGBT is punishable by death, such as Nigeria and Somalia.  In over 75 counties, you could be sent to prison.

Or what about the anti-LGBT song that occured at
Apostolic Truth Tabernacle by church youth that was met with a standing ovation?

As the success of .gay will depend on garnering broad support from the many diverse constituencies that comprise the worldwide gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community, we seek endorsement and invite comments from all interested parties.  They look forward to being held accountable for “giving back” to the community, by administering .gay in a way that ensures innovation, fairness and long-term success.

Please join me in showing support for .gay -- become a fan on Facebook, follow .gay on Twitter, and take a moment and visit the Website.  Above all, share with family and friends, as well as on social media, because the more support it has, the better chance it has of making a difference, and ultimately, saving lives of LGBT individuals.

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